Therapy For People Pleasers
Improve Self-Esteem With Healthy Boundaries
You're competent, dependable, high-functioning, and you appear successful on the outside. Yet privately, there's a quiet sense something needs to change, but you're not sure what. Therapy at Selfwiser is for people like you. We make space to understand your inner experience and the real you - your unique story, personal narratives, attachment wounds, culture, or even neurodiversities like ADHD or Autism. Bring your full self, reconnect with all parts of you, and truly build a life that feels more aligned and like yours.
Explore Deeper Emotional And Attachment Patterns
Anxiety, burnout, people-pleasing, low self-esteem and relationship difficulties are all symptoms.
Therapy at Selfwiser doesn't just manage symptoms, we take time to understand what sits beneath them. You'll leave understanding the deeper emotional patterns, unmet needs, protective strategies and longings that drive persistent cycles. Because when your self-understanding goes deeper, things actually shift, making it possible to move forward and create lasting change.
Experience an integrated therapeutic approach that focuses on the whole person - your thoughts, feelings, nervous system, body, culture and where meaningful, spirituality. Your challenges are unique, and your therapy is tailored to who you are and where you want to be. You don't need to edit yourself, come exactly as you are and be understood without judgement.
Understand and recognise the patterns that sit beneath your experiences, and learn how to respond differently. Break free from familiar thought spirals and repeating cycles of behaviour and tensions - in relationships, at work, or within yourself, such as secret addictions. Build healthier relationships and create a life more aligned with who you want to be.
Understanding yourself is one thing, knowing how to create change that goes beyond symptom management is another. Using evidence-based approaches, you'll learn how to navigate emotions effectively, build confidence in your value as a person, set real boundaries in relationships and develop new habits in a way that lasts.
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Personalised Therapy For Your Emotional Needs
Your challenges are unique, and so is your therapy. You can access tailored therapy designed around your emotional and relational needs and goals.
Psychodynamic therapy
Uncovering unconscious patterns from your past to help you heal and thrive in the present and future.
Person-Centred Therapy
Providing a safe, supportive, space to explore your thoughts and feelings without judgement, in a way that unlocks your personal growth.
Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT)
Helping you change negative thought patterns to improve your emotional well-being and daily coping skills.
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Systemic Therapy
Seeing the bigger picture of your family, cultural and relationship to promote understanding, connection, and growth.
Solution-Focused Therapy
Empowering you to build on strengths and find practical solutions for life’s challenges, one step at a time.
Somatic Therapy
Connecting mind, body and nervous system to release stored trauma, reduce stress, and foster emotional and physical wellbeing.
Session types
Individual weekly sessions last for 50 minutes.
You can book one of our bundles and use the sessions over the course of the year. You can also book a one-off initial consultation that lasts for 20 minutes or a periodic. Therapy MOT which lasts for 90 minutes. Or you could choose to gift therapy.
Types of Therapy Sessions
Starting therapy at Selfwiser is easy - whether you want to dip a toe in or commit to a deeper journey. Select from either Individual or Couples therapy, and a duration that suits your life and therapy goals. Find your pace and your path, and start your healing journey today.
Off-Peak: Monday - Friday: 9am - 3:30pm
Peak: Monday - Wednesday: 7:30 - 9:30pm, Saturdays: 9am - 12pm
Off-Peak Couples Session
1 x 50min Online session
Peak Couples Online: £150
Off-Peak Couples In-Person: £160
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Real Stories, Real Change
If it doesn't challenge you, it doesn't change you.
~ Fred DeVito
FAQs
How is therapy at Selfwiser different from other therapy?
Selfwiser was built specifically for people who've outgrown surface-level support. Sessions are personalised, combine therapeutic depth and insight, and are oriented around lasting change, not just feeling better in the moment.
What kind of therapy is right for someone who's high-functioning but struggling internally?
Depth-oriented therapy - which draws on psychodynamic, person-centred and somatic approaches - is particularly effective and goes beyond symptom management to explore the underlying patterns and emotional world that shape your experience. It then helps you take active and tailored steps towards change.
How do payments work?
We accept bank transfers, or you can set up direct debits for ongoing sessions. Want to gift sessions to someone? We can help with that too. Please see our pricing here.
I'm not sure I'm 'struggling enough' to need therapy. Is it for me?
Many of the people who find therapy most transformative don't come in crisis. They come because there's a quiet gap between how their life looks and feels and how they would want things to be - and they're ready to understand it. You don't need to be falling apart to benefit from therapy. You just need to be curious and open to the process.
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